Ken Donaldson, Marry YourSelf First and Life Balance
Here’s something everyone can relate to: Your Car.
That wonderful and amazing piece of technology that takes you from one place to another…
usually without any difficulty.
And what is one big element the car relies on to get you there?
The tires…those round rubber donuts which “usually”
create no problems.
Let’s talk about your tires…stick with me here… it’ll all start to make sense…
I promise!
Think of your life as being a car and your tires as one of the most important dynamics to get you
where you want to be in your life.
Each of the tires have an important role, so let’s take a closer look at the tires…
Tire #1: The Know YourSelf Tire
This tire consists of your purpose, your values and your vision.
Take the time now to answer the following questions:
Why am I here (purpose)?
Where am I going (vision)?
What’s most important (values)?
If this tire is not properly aligned, balanced or inflated, your car will not work properly and
you’re likely to have a breakdown on the Highway of Life.
And THAT would be a HUGE bummer!
Tire #2: The Love YourSelf Tire
This tire consists of the ways you affirm yourself, talk to yourself, talk about yourself and
the balance (or lack thereof ) you have in your life.
Answer these questions now:
What good things do I say to myself every day?
How do I celebrate me every day?
How do I love myself every day?
How do I keep myself healthy every day?
Like tire #1, if this tire is not properly aligned, balanced or inflated, your car will
not work properly and you’re likely – again – to have a breakdown on the Highway of Life.
More bummers!
Tire #3: The Believe in YourSelf Tire
This tire consists of your self-confidence, your communication capabilities, and your ability
to “Play Big” in life.
Answer these additional questions now:
How do I strengthen my confidence muscle?
How do I expand my communication skills?
How can I play bigger and bigger every day in Life?
Yes, like tires #1 and #2, if this tire is not properly aligned, balanced or inflated, your car
will not work properly and you’re most likely to have a breakdown on the Highway of Life.
Breakdowns like these are unnecessary and HUGE bummers!
Tire #4: The Guide YourSelf Tire
This tire consists of your boundaries, priority management and stress management skills.
Answer these last questions now:
How do I evaluate my boundaries?
How do I prioritize my life?
How do I manage stress in my life?
I’m sure you’re catching on…yes, like tires #1, #2 and #3, if this tire is not properly
aligned, balanced or inflated, you’re likely to have a breakdown on the Highway of Life.
And another bummer!
NOW, the only other question is:
What are you going to do about all this?
One answer…and you know what it is:
Marry YourSelf First!
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what are you waiting for? A Breakdown???
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Invest in some books (the package deals are great for the holidays AND you’ll
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Go get your tire situation straightened out now.
At least answer those 13 questions for yourself… they may be
the most important questions you ever ask yourself!
And Marry YourSelf First every day…in every way!
And have an awesome weekend!
Peace and Prosperity…
Ken
Ken Donaldson and the American Diabetes Association Tampa Health Expo
Coach Ken Donaldson (That would be me!!) reports on the
American Diabetes Association Health Expo in Tampa…Ken connects with
people via his own trademarked method and it brings many smiles and laugh!!
Read more from Ken Donaldson here…
Ken Donaldson asks: Are You Anti-Cancer?
Read this first:
“Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air. You name them – work, family, health, friends, and spirit – and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same…
You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.”
~ Brian Dyson, CEO of Coca Cola Enterprises from 1959-1994
And now, hold on to your hat, as I’m about to tell you something you DON’T want to hear:
According to the American Cancer Society (ACS), an estimated 192,370 new cases of invasive breast cancer are expected to be diagnosed among women in the United States this year. An estimated 40,170 women are expected to die from the disease in 2009 alone. Today, there are about 2.5 million breast cancer survivors living in the United States. (And the rate is going WAY up for men too!)
What’s the connection? I’m not sure…maybe none…but I doubt it.
Since October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I wanted to offer my thoughts.
I am NOT a doctor, a researcher or an expert in cancer, but after thousands of clients over 25+ years, I do have some thoughts, observations and opinions.
Don’t feel that you must agree…remember, most of this is my opinion…
Here we go…
Since the breast cancer (and ALL cancers) rate continues to be at a very high (and totally unacceptable … man on the moon but can’t cure cancer!!??) rate, there must be something(s) that we’re doing to invite it.
Maybe it’s partly our diet…we all know how that has become very poor over the years.
Maybe it’s partly all the chemical additives added to our foods…and our water…and in the air we breathe.
Maybe it’s partly the hormones and antibiotics fed to the animals that we then ingest.
Maybe it’s partly the extreme amount of electro-magnetic and radiation pollution that we can’t see and that everyone seems to deny and downplay.
Or maybe it’s partly the stress that we continually add without having the resources to deal with the stress we already had and weren’t dealing with in a healthy fashion.
I don’t know, and like I said, I’m no cancer expert nor am I an expert in any of these other areas…except the last one.
I can talk to you about stress…I can talk a lot about this.
In fact, this is MY area of expertise…
You’ve no doubt heard about the personality types.
Like type A, who are often described as “stress junkies.”
Then there are the type B individuals who, in contrast, are described as patient, relaxed, and easy-going, generally lacking any sense of urgency.
And psychologists have now identified a “type C” (cancer-prone) personality. These people are characterized as people “who respond to stress with depression and a sense of hoplessness.”
Yikes…”depression and hopelessness”!!!
Here’s more: Type C personalities tend to be introverted, eager to please, conforming and compliant.
In other words, they are people pleasers who usually don’t express how they really feel.
Then, that lack of expression leads to depression and hopelessness…yeah, that sounds like just the formula to make people sick!
Holy Suppression, Batman!
Okay, so here’s the deal: If you haven’t been expressing yourself completely and thoroughly, NOW is THE time to start!
First, it’ll make your relationships, your work and – YES!! – your health better.
But more so, isn’t it just the right thing to do!!??
Can’t see yourself doing this (this is where it starts…between your ears!)!!??
So, take the Communication Readiness Quiz™…Here you go…check those that apply to you:
1.) I avoid talking about things I know I should because I am afraid I will hurt someone’s feelings. ____
2.) I am uncomfortable with receiving attention and/or affection. ____
3.) I deflect praise and compliments by downplaying them. ____
4.) I “bite my tongue” again and again rather than speak my mind, until I finally blow up at someone.____
5.) I avoid necessary confrontations.____
6.) I have trouble setting and honoring boundaries in relationships.____
7.) I find it hard to express how I really feel.____
8.) I have a hard time receiving “constructive criticism”. ____
9.) I feel like people don’t listen to me.____
10.) I have trouble asking for what I want.____
Total Communication Readiness Score____
0-1: You are a great communicator…be a role model for others!
2-3: You are a good overall communicator…keep it going!
4-5: You have some good communication skills, but could use improvement in a few areas…don’t wait!
6-7: You have some rough spots in your communication strategies…start now to avoid future problems!
8 or more: You are VERY ready to improve your communication skills…call me today!
Call me…(727) 394-7325…I can help you.
And Marry YourSelf First! will help…for example Chapter 7: Communication Poker: Knowing When to Hold `em, Show `em and Fold `em is all about effective communication.
Get your copy today!
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In the meantime, how about upgrading your health and making yourself an “anti C type” and “Just Say It!”
As Brian was quoted in the beginning of this article, “…But the other four balls – family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same…”
Be good to you…start today in every way!
Read more from Ken Donaldson here…
Ken Donaldson Says: Your Net Worth Equals Your Self Worth Plus Your Network…
I am a member of a professional
business networking group, BNI:
Business Networking International…
http://www.bni.com/
With thousands of chapters, it’s
the biggest networking group in the world.
So, why did I join earlier this year?
Here’s one reason:
Last year BNI passed 5.6 million referrals,
which generated over $2.3 billion dollars!
Yes…I wanted to, and continue to want to,
grow my business.
But that’s not the real reason I joined…
the REAL reason I joined was simply to
make connections.
And I know, after all these years,
the more connections I have,
the more business I have,
and the more money I make.
BUT…it wasn’t all about the money…nope!
I knew that BNI ran a “very tight ship”,
meaning that they were structured
and organized, and they challenged their
members to “raise the bar” on themselves.
I needed that challenge…
and I’m so happy I’ve taken it on.
BNI has extraordinary education programs and
they have a system that operates under
one simple formula: Givers Gain!
You know, like “Pay It Forward”,
“You Reap What You Sow”, etc.
I like that because that’s how I run my business today.
For years I ran it the other way
(or, better put, it ran me!):
Go chase down the business and
get as much as I could from it.
Nothing wrong with that model,
but I found when I just simply
do the “right thing” and
give all I can, and
be smart about my business,
I am rewarded…abundantly!
PLUS, I am now getting ready to
launch a new program –
1M×3: 1 Million Times 3–
that is based entirely on the
Givers Gain philosophy.
1 Million Times 3:
Sell 1 Million Books
Raise $1 Million for Charity
Donate 1 Million Books
(Read a brief overview at
http://kendonaldson.com/1mx3/ )
So I figured getting involved with
an organization that promotes,
practices and teaches the Givers Gain
philosophy would be the
place for me to be!
Plus, since I’ll need many people involved to make this work,
I knew that the people I meet in BNI would be the perfect
people to make connections with!
So…I would like to personally invite YOU to a BNI meeting…
Go to http://www.bni.com/ to find one near you…
check it out…
tell them Ken from Tampa, Florida sent you!
Better yet, if you live in the Tampa Bay area,
I’d like to invite you out this Thursday (10/15), as I’ll be
giving my 10 minute “Zero to Hero” talk.
Every week a couple members have the chance to
share with the chapter how the chapter can
best support them.
I plan to share a bit of my personal story
(the VERY condensed version) and then share
the 1M×3 program with the members and invite
them to support the program.
Here’s our chapter info:
http://bnisuccessmasters.com/
If you can make it, that would be great…
FYI: there is a small $5 fee for the room.
If you can’t, you’re welcome to come out any
Thursday morning and check it out.
I’d love to have you join me.
Regardless, know this: Your Net Worth
equals your Self Worth plus your Network.
Think about it!
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