Ken Donaldson, Fox 13 and The Healing Power of Love
I visited my friends at Fox 13 again last week to discuss The Healing Power of Live.
Included in the conversation was Psychoneuroimmunology (a BIG $.50 word!), Norman Cousins and Anatomy of an Illness, Dr. Bernie Segal from Love, Medicine and Miracles, Dr. Larry Dossey and his book Healing Words and Gerald Jampolsky from Attitudinal Healing International.
We were even able to bring some of the core Marry YourSelf First principles into the discussion.
Does love have some “secret” healing power?
We thought so based scientific information and from a couple viewer comments.
What do you think? Feel free to leave a comment below…
Marry YourSelf First!
Coach Ken Donaldson: Healthy, Happy and Lasting Relationship Secrets Uncovered
Whether you’re single, in a relationship or perhaps coming out of a relationship, it’s always good to know the primary relationship building blocks…right?!!
Over the years, I’ve had the opportunity to work with and/or interview thousands of people and ask them about their relationships.
I’ve noticed some trends in the happier, healthier and longer lasting relationships: The individuals in those relationships have some very clear traits and behaviors that separated them from the rest.
Want to know what they are?
Here you go:
The 12 Steps to Proactively Creating a Divorce-Proof Marriage
1.) Know yourself, trust yourself and like yourself first!
• Define your Life Purpose
• Discern and live by your Values and Priorities
• Create your Life Vision and Life Mission Statement
• Develop a Legacy that will live forever
2.) Create a Balanced Lifestyle
• Set Boundaries and eliminate energy drains
• Create a proactive Self Maintenance program
• Evaluate and Inventory your lifestyle weekly
3.) Surround yourself with Supportive Networks and Communities
• Seek out like-minded and like-valued people
• Create Accountability agreements with others
• Avoid negative situations and environments
4.) Know your Requirements and Needs
• Create and live by your “Deal Makers” and “Deal Breakers”
• Make direct requests to get your needs met
• Always be true to yourself
5.) Take your work in life seriously, but take life lightly
• Practice being flexible, fluid, and accepting
• Avoid trying to “push the river”
• Express your passion in life with the utmost of passion
6.) Understand the healthy romantic relationship developmental process
• Create the criteria for your Life Partner
• Develop “Screening” and “Testing” strategies
• Use your support system for feedback and input
7.) Define your personal Spirituality
• Discover and walk your Spiritual Path
• Practice daily acts to activate your “Highest Self”
• Accept life on life’s terms
8.) Be perfectly imperfect
• Know your character challenges and work to strengthen those areas
• Accept all your errors, mis-takes and failures
• Practice non-judgment of yourself and all others
9.) Live from Abundance
• Practice daily acts of ‘Random Kindness”
• Develop a “Pay it Forward” system in your life
• Create an affirming, fear-less inner dialogue
10.) Be an Excellent Communicator
• Practice Active Listening as often as possible
• Commit to creating a “Win-Win” outcome with others
• Learn to process emotions, conflict and disagreements
11.) Get out of your comfort zone
• Learn to accept all your uncomfortable feelings and emotions
• Practice deliberate daily acts of new behavior
• Celebrate discomfort as healthy growth and development
12.) Consciously Breathe and Smile
• Learn to be Silly (use a clown nose if you need too!!)
• Develop Breathing Exercises to enhance your Mind, Body, Heart and Soul
• Smile until you are happy
And if you like this, you’re going to love the workshop this Saturday:
Love YourSelf Before You Love Again
Saturday, November 13th, 9 A.M. – 5 P.M.
Cost: $27 if prepaid, $37 at the door (and includes lunch!!)
FAMILY RESOURCES
5180 62nd Avenue North
Pinellas Park, FL 33781.
CLICK HERE TO REGISTER OR CALL 866.600.6064.
Ken Donaldson and The A-Z of Happy, Healthy and Harmonious Relationships
Here’s a great cheat sheet for your relational intelligence.
• Assertiveness: Say what you mean, mean what you say, and never say it mean.
• Boundaries: With yourself first; then others… ”No” is a complete sentence.
• Communication: Still one of the cornerstones of healthy relationships (See Assertiveness).
• Deal Makers/Deal Breakers: Say “Yes” to your Yes’ and “No” to your No’s.
• Emotional Management: Feel them; Heal them; Deal with them…then move on.
• Focus-Fear-Faith: Do you focus on fear or faith?…your choice.
• God: Is there a spiritual conversation here?
• Humor: Wear a clown nose before every fight …it’ll eliminate most of them.
• Integrity: Be whole, open, honest and forthright.
• Jealousy: Just in case it shows up, know how to deal with it (and any other yucky dynamics too).
• Ken on Call: Always have a coach/counselor you can rely on.
• Logs on the Fire: Keep the passion growing and growing…don’t let the fire go out…ever!
• Most Important: The most important thing is the most important thing…priorities 101.
• NO Blame, Shame or Games!: See integrity.
• Openness: The gateway to the Heart has to be open to let the Love in.
• Purpose: What is the purpose of this relationship? Make it bigger than the two of you.
• Questions: Ask in the direction of the solution, not in the direction of the problem.
• Rituals: Daily, positive, growth-enhancing and fun …got it?!!
• Support Networks: Where/who do you go to for yours? We all need support.
• Tongue-Foo Fighting: Know how to be the bull-fighter of tongue-foo and arguments go away real fast and in a real loving way.
• Understanding: “Do you understand me?” If not, then listen more and deeper.
• Validation: We all want this and it’s often withheld or overlooked…give it away generously!
• Work-Life Balance: See Boundaries and Deal-Makers/Deal Breakers.
• X(Ex)Relationship Baggage: Live in the present not the past…see Ken on Call if you can’t do this.
• Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow: Where do you live… live your best today in today.
• Zealousness: Not too much, not too little, just right in the middle.
And Marry YourSelf First!
Ken Donaldson on Your Ultimate Life and Your Best Relationships
What do life purpose, vision, legacy, values, priorities, spirituality, integrity, the Law of Attraction, giving anonymously, boundaries, communication, support networks, personal growth, getting finished with the past, “being your being”, going with the flow of life, silliness, deliberate breathing, conscious walking and being perfectly imperfect all have in common with each other?
They are the foundational pieces of your ultimate life, the best relationships and having extraordinary passion for your work!
Watch this and then go live it!
Leave your comments below.
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Ken Donaldson, Marry YourSelf First and Your Ultimate Life
Want more passion, power, purpose and prosperity in your life? Here’s the official Ken Donaldson Marry YourSelf First!® 20 Core Success Principles to Create Your Ultimate Life, Relationships and Career!
#1 Allow your life purpose to be the flashlight to keep you on the pathway of your life.
#2 Create your vision and you’ll have the magnet that will pull you into your ultimate and utmost future.
#3 Allow your values and priorities to be the guides on your path that will keep you going in the direction of your purpose and your vision.
#4 Create and live your legacy today.
#5 Live by the Law of Attraction and put your focus, energy, emotions AND action toward what you truly desire in this lifetime.
#6 Give unconditionally and anonymously.
#7 Practice the daily rituals that evoke your unique spirituality and invite your True Essence and your Highest Self to shine.
#8 Know and live by your deal-makers and deal-breakers.
#9 Discern between accepting and settling. Accept what you cannot change, but never settle for anything below your standards.
#10 Live by your integrity, and allow yourself to be true to you first and foremost.
#11 Know, practice and learn from your boundaries (proactive and reactive, inner and outer), and by doing so you allow yourself to be in your power, in the present moment and in the highest degree of balance possible.
#12 Find and use the support networks that encourage your passion, power, purpose and prosperity, and invite your whole self to shine.
#13 Learn the communication strategies and tactics that will further empower you, reinforce your boundaries and fulfill all your needs.
#14 Understand and live in accordance with the relationship developmental process. In doing so you’ll have the closest relationships only with those who truly support, accept and encourage you.
#15 Always be willing to step out of your comfort zone to promote growth, change and unlimited possibility into your life.
#16 Commit to finalize all your unfinished business from the past and in doing so allow yourself to be present in the present.
#17 Separate “who you are” – your being – from “what you do” your doing – and choose to live more from your being state.
#18 Learn to go with the flow in life. Navigate through and around the challenging times and be focused on the journey, not the destination.
#19 Practice frequent silliness, deliberate breathing and conscious walking, all to give yourself the proactive medicine of health and well-being.
#20 Recognize, accept and embrace the perfect imperfection of you.
Any questions ( leave them below, as well as any comments you might have)?
Now…go live your life to the fullest…more passion…more power…more purpose…and more prosperity!
It’s time for YOU to get with the Marry YourSelf First! movement
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