Coach Ken Donaldson and The State of Relationship Affairs
I saw a report that said a man used a shared computer to log onto his wife’s e-mail account and discovered she was cheating. (I’m quite sure this isn’t the first time that this has happened…neither the cheating nor the snooping).
Evidently this guy has now been charged with felony computer misuse and faces five years in prison…Wow!! Do we really clutter our courtrooms with these ridiculous over-sensationalized relationship dysfunctions?
It is right or wrong for this guy to be charged (and maybe go to jail)?
Maybe that’s NOT the bigger issue.
There is something HUGE here on a more global level…it’s called “relationship intelligence” and there is a huge deficit of it in the world today.
If one of the people in a relationship has to snoop to find out what’s really going on, what does that say?
It suggests that there is a severe lack of openness and honesty (for starters).
How did it get this way?
When cases like this are brought into the light, it’s a great opportunity to look at the state of relationships in general.
When it comes to relationship intelligence, we have a failing grade.
Start with this: In mainstream education we don’t teach our kids anything about relationship skills, communication skills or how to deal with conflict, and many of us have had “less than desirable” role models growing up.
Boundaries, values and integrity…anyone have those classes?
Maybe we should let TV, movies and books with fictional stories teach us these things…right?
How about commitment, dedication and loyalty…maybe we should let these necessary dynamics of successful relationship occur by osmosis!
Getting back to the story, what do we really expect?
Openness and honesty?
No! Why should we? We’re surrounded by numerous drama-filled stories of deceit, deception and dishonesty that fill our airwaves, cable news headlines and newspapers every day.
And this case is just one of thousands of highly dysfunctional relationship situations that are occurring all the time.
As off the wall and odd as it may sound, how about we use these publicized relationship breakdowns as springboards to change things, rather than just sensational news items that become role models for future relationships?
I’m just asking…
What do you think? Feel free to leave a comment or two below.