Facts About Sexual, Physical and Emotional Abuse
It’s very unfortunate that there is so much abuse around us, and so much that goes unnoticed and is kept in denial. The aftermath of abuse can haunt people for years and can contribute greatly to numerous disorders and dysfunctions. People who’ve been abused often feel ashamed of acknowledging the abuse, and often blame themselves for the abuse.
These people often display many of the symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Although abuse can cause some very deep-seated wounds, there are methods to heal these wounds and help the “victims” become thriving survivors. It’s unfortunate that victims of abuse come to see me, but I feel extremely fortunate to have the tools, training and experience to help former victims of abuse become one of those thriving survivors.
Abuse has no regard for age, socioeconomic and marital status, race, religion or how intelligent a person might be. In other words, abuse can happen to anyone, and has happened to more people then “we” would like to acknowledge.
Consider the following statistics from RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) and The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV):
- Every 98 seconds another American is sexually assaulted.
- 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed, 2.8% attempted).
- From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.
- 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17.
- On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.
- 19.3 million women and 5.1 million men in the United States have been stalked in their lifetime. 60.8% of female stalking victims and 43.5% men reported being stalked by a current or former intimate partner.
- 1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence.
And then there’s the ever so insidious emotional abuse.
The following is from The Office on Women’s Health. It’s the best and most succinct overview I’ve read regarding emotional abuse, which is more often than not the most common form of abuse and the least likely to be reported or even talked about at all.
You may feel like if you’re not being hurt physically, you are not being abused. But attempts to scare, isolate, or control you also are abuse. They can affect your physical and emotional well-being. And they often are a sign that physical abuse will follow.
You may be experiencing emotional abuse if someone:
- Monitors what you’re doing all the time
- Unfairly accuses you of being unfaithful all the time
- Prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family
- Tries to stop you from going to work or school
- Gets angry in a way that is frightening to you
- Controls how you spend your money
- Humiliates you in front of others
- Threatens to hurt you or people you care about
- Threatens to harm himself or herself when upset with you
- Says things like, “If I can’t have you then no one can.“
- Decides things for you that you should decide (like what to wear or eat)
No one has the right to hurt you in any way.
If you’ve been abused and are ready to get on the healing path of discovering the happy and healthy life you deserve, please call me so we can discuss the best treatment options for you. You deserve to be happy and to have an optimistic view of the future.