Ken Donaldson and The Daily Illuminating Dozen
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The Daily Illuminating Dozen:
1. How many smiles did you cause today?
2. How many times, regardless of the fear, apprehension or discomfort, did you say “Yes!” to a bigger opportunity today?
3. How many times today did you ignore things (and people) that you may have normally (and probably irrationally) reacted to in the past?
4. How many times did you connect with the people you love today?
5. How many times did you encourage someone else (who really needed it) today?
6. How many times did you practice good self care (including doing nothing at all) today?
7. How many times did you eat healthy today?
8. How many times did you drink pure, fresh water today (even if you didn’t feel like it)?
9. How many times did you give anonymously (time, energy, talents and money) today?
10. How many people did you educate to help them improve their situation today?
11. How many times did you say something positive to yourself about yourself today?
12. How many unconditional hugs did you share today?
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Ken Donaldson on Putting Out Fires, Crisis and Integrity
I had a fire to put out last Thursday.
A REAL fire.
Evidently some trees rubbed my power line to the point of creating an open line and all the lights started to flash in my house, the backup battery systems started to beep and finally there was a puff of smoke followed by sparks and then an outlet burst into flames.
Wow…all before 9 a.m.!
I was fortunate to be here at home and not at my office, otherwise, I may not be writing this today as I’m sure there would have been a significant fire.
Yes, I am VERY grateful.
But I noticed something as all this was going on.
I noticed how calm I was.
I’m not meaning to brag, but I have to say that I impressed myself.
I guess all those years of deep breathing, meditation, positive thinking, mental reframing and self-hypnosis paid off.
I think I’ll keep practicing what I’ve been doing…it seems to be working.
All of which brings me to a question: How are you at “putting out fires?”
This term of speech, “putting out fires”, typically means responding to crisis, conflict, unexpected surprises or, as some call it, the “do-do” of life.
How are you at all of that?
I’ve noticed that there are four basic types of responses:
Freeze: These are the people who are the proverbial “deer in the headlights” reactors. They get immediately overwhelmed and their emotions override their intellect and wisdom. They don’t take action. They don’t do anything. They freeze.
Fight: Some people are so reactive that when anything is the least bit upsetting their emotions go into full tilt overdrive. They get angry, frustrated, irritated or just go into a rage. Their action is irrational and often inappropriate. They instantly burn the bridges between themselves and others. These are the “reactors” of life.
Flight: They run. They run more. They keep running. Sometimes they forget what they’re running from. Their emotional response is such that they instantly see things as “life threatening” and obviously overreact by running. These are the conflict avoiders of life.
Fix: These people stop, pause, think, analyze and then go into action. Although their emotions are present, they are able to keep their emotions in check. Their intellect and wisdom override their emotions. They go into rational action and stay focused until they have completed the task to the best of their ability.
Which are you?
I can honestly tell you that I have been all four at one time or another in my life.
Today, fortunately, I do my best to stay in the latter category. I stop, pause, think and respond.
It’s very easy to allow one’s emotions to make their decisions. Emotions are very powerful and very helpful in many ways, but NOT to make decisions with…especially the super important decisions.
In my case, I had an impulse to throw water on the fire, since I know that water puts out fire. However, if you throw water on electrical fires, you can create many more problems.
I wonder how many people in life react and “throw water on an electrical fire.”
I have learned over the years that when I practice meditation and Qigong breathing, I seem to have better control over emotional situations. I can’t tell that I really know how that all works, all I know is that it works for me.
I also have a very empowering mantra:
Every moment of every day, I get better and better in every way.
Every moment of every day, I get richer and richer in every way.
Every moment of every day, I get stronger and stronger in every way.
Every moment of every day, I get wiser and wiser in every way.
I think there’s a part of me that actually has begun to fully believe that message.
It’s only taken 53 years….and I know it’ll get better and better every day…in every way!
As somewhat of an aside, I was also quite surprised with the power company’s seemingly lack of concern that my house could have burned down. I found it alarming that the customer service representative wanted to tell me all about their policies and procedures. She also said she would get back to me regarding having the trees trimmed.
It’s been three days now. I have a feeling I won’t hear back.
No worries, I’ll write a nice letter to the CEO. Don’t really like to do that, but have found that that is sometimes the only path to any resolution.
I bring this issue up for only one reason: Integrity.
How is your integrity? Are you living at your highest standards? Are you “your living word”? Are you “being whole” with yourself?
So, a few things for you to ponder: Fires, emotions, meditation, integrity.
I think it’s called “Life”, or as one of my older and wiser clients says, “It all comes with the birth certificate.”
Feel free to leave a comment below.
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Ken Donaldson on Your Ultimate Life and Your Best Relationships
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What do life purpose, vision, legacy, values, priorities, spirituality, integrity, the Law of Attraction, giving anonymously, boundaries, communication, support networks, personal growth, getting finished with the past, “being your being”, going with the flow of life, silliness, deliberate breathing, conscious walking and being perfectly imperfect all have in common with each other?
They are the foundational pieces of your ultimate life, the best relationships and having extraordinary passion for your work!
Watch this and then go live it!
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Ken Donaldson, Marry YourSelf First and Your Ultimate Life
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Want more passion, power, purpose and prosperity in your life? Here’s the official Ken Donaldson Marry YourSelf First!® 20 Core Success Principles to Create Your Ultimate Life, Relationships and Career!
#1 Allow your life purpose to be the flashlight to keep you on the pathway of your life.
#2 Create your vision and you’ll have the magnet that will pull you into your ultimate and utmost future.
#3 Allow your values and priorities to be the guides on your path that will keep you going in the direction of your purpose and your vision.
#4 Create and live your legacy today.
#5 Live by the Law of Attraction and put your focus, energy, emotions AND action toward what you truly desire in this lifetime.
#6 Give unconditionally and anonymously.
#7 Practice the daily rituals that evoke your unique spirituality and invite your True Essence and your Highest Self to shine.
#8 Know and live by your deal-makers and deal-breakers.
#9 Discern between accepting and settling. Accept what you cannot change, but never settle for anything below your standards.
#10 Live by your integrity, and allow yourself to be true to you first and foremost.
#11 Know, practice and learn from your boundaries (proactive and reactive, inner and outer), and by doing so you allow yourself to be in your power, in the present moment and in the highest degree of balance possible.
#12 Find and use the support networks that encourage your passion, power, purpose and prosperity, and invite your whole self to shine.
#13 Learn the communication strategies and tactics that will further empower you, reinforce your boundaries and fulfill all your needs.
#14 Understand and live in accordance with the relationship developmental process. In doing so you’ll have the closest relationships only with those who truly support, accept and encourage you.
#15 Always be willing to step out of your comfort zone to promote growth, change and unlimited possibility into your life.
#16 Commit to finalize all your unfinished business from the past and in doing so allow yourself to be present in the present.
#17 Separate “who you are” – your being – from “what you do” your doing – and choose to live more from your being state.
#18 Learn to go with the flow in life. Navigate through and around the challenging times and be focused on the journey, not the destination.
#19 Practice frequent silliness, deliberate breathing and conscious walking, all to give yourself the proactive medicine of health and well-being.
#20 Recognize, accept and embrace the perfect imperfection of you.
Any questions ( leave them below, as well as any comments you might have)?
Now…go live your life to the fullest…more passion…more power…more purpose…and more prosperity!
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