Ken Donaldson, Marry YourSelf First and Your Ultimate Life
Want more passion, power, purpose and prosperity in your life? Here’s the official Ken Donaldson Marry YourSelf First!® 20 Core Success Principles to Create Your Ultimate Life, Relationships and Career!
#1 Allow your life purpose to be the flashlight to keep you on the pathway of your life.
#2 Create your vision and you’ll have the magnet that will pull you into your ultimate and utmost future.
#3 Allow your values and priorities to be the guides on your path that will keep you going in the direction of your purpose and your vision.
#4 Create and live your legacy today.
#5 Live by the Law of Attraction and put your focus, energy, emotions AND action toward what you truly desire in this lifetime.
#6 Give unconditionally and anonymously.
#7 Practice the daily rituals that evoke your unique spirituality and invite your True Essence and your Highest Self to shine.
#8 Know and live by your deal-makers and deal-breakers.
#9 Discern between accepting and settling. Accept what you cannot change, but never settle for anything below your standards.
#10 Live by your integrity, and allow yourself to be true to you first and foremost.
#11 Know, practice and learn from your boundaries (proactive and reactive, inner and outer), and by doing so you allow yourself to be in your power, in the present moment and in the highest degree of balance possible.
#12 Find and use the support networks that encourage your passion, power, purpose and prosperity, and invite your whole self to shine.
#13 Learn the communication strategies and tactics that will further empower you, reinforce your boundaries and fulfill all your needs.
#14 Understand and live in accordance with the relationship developmental process. In doing so you’ll have the closest relationships only with those who truly support, accept and encourage you.
#15 Always be willing to step out of your comfort zone to promote growth, change and unlimited possibility into your life.
#16 Commit to finalize all your unfinished business from the past and in doing so allow yourself to be present in the present.
#17 Separate “who you are” – your being – from “what you do” your doing – and choose to live more from your being state.
#18 Learn to go with the flow in life. Navigate through and around the challenging times and be focused on the journey, not the destination.
#19 Practice frequent silliness, deliberate breathing and conscious walking, all to give yourself the proactive medicine of health and well-being.
#20 Recognize, accept and embrace the perfect imperfection of you.
Any questions ( leave them below, as well as any comments you might have)?
Now…go live your life to the fullest…more passion…more power…more purpose…and more prosperity!
It’s time for YOU to get with the Marry YourSelf First! movement
Ken Donaldson: D.W. Waters Graduating Class and I Dare You…Too!
I had the privilege and honor on this past Thursday evening of delivering the graduation keynote for the D.W. Waters class of 2010.
Just to give you a little insight, D.W. Waters’ motto is “It’s not where you start, it’s where you finish that counts!”
No big deal, right?
Wrong!
This is a WAY special class…check out their enrollment criteria:
• At least 16 years of age
• At least one year behind in school
• No record of severe discipline problems
• Wants to focus on a chosen Career Cluster at DWWCC (D. W. Waters Career Center)
• Willing to commit to workplace training (OJT)
These are the students who make “high risk” look like every day living. For whatever reason (pregnancy, emotional and/or learning challenges, abuse, etc.), these courageous young people chose to continue on.
Most of them were so far behind that they couldn’t even imagine catching up, much less graduating.
And it would have been easier to quit!
A group of about 12 students sang the musical selection for the ceremony, I Believe I Can Fly. A perfect song for the students, the school and the event.
Here are the lyrics in case you’re not familiar with song:
“I Believe I Can Fly”
~R. KELLY
I used to think that I could not go on
And life was nothing but an awful song
But now I know the meaning of true love
I’m leaning on the everlasting arms
If I can see it, then I can do it
If I just believe it, there’s nothing to it
I believe I can fly
I believe I can touch the sky
I think about it every night and day
Spread my wings and fly away
I believe I can soar
I see me running through that open door
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
See I was on the verge of breaking down
Sometimes silence can seem so loud
There are miracles in life I must achieve
But first I know it starts inside of me, oh
If I can see it, then I can do it
If I just believe it, there’s nothing to it
I believe I can fly
I believe I can touch the sky
I think about it every night and day
Spread my wings and fly away
I believe I can soar
I see me running through that open door
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
Hey, cause I believe in me, oh
If I can see it, then I can do it
If I just believe it, there’s nothing to it
I believe I can fly
I believe I can touch the sky
I think about it every night and day
Spread my wings and fly away
I believe I can soar
I see me running through that open door
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
I believe I can fly
Hey, if I just spread my wings
I can fly
I can fly
I can fly, hey
If I just spread my wings
I can fly
Fly-eye-eye
Anyway, I thought long and hard about what to say to them.
So I decided to dare them…yes, I simply dared them…
I dared them to find and be the greatness that they truly are.
I dared them to find their unique purpose and live it every day in every way.
I dared them to find their own personal soul food and to continually, without fail, feed their spirit.
I dare them to figure out, set and maintain the boundaries that will empower them, to say a resounding “Yes” to all they do want, need and desire, and say a resonant “No” to all they will not tolerate.
I dared them to realize that the world needs them today more than ever, and the answers to the world’s problems will not come from Washington or Hollywood, but rather, from each and every one of them.
I dared them to surround themselves with the people who love them, accept them and encourage them, and to step away from those who don’t.
I dared them to tell themselves, time and time again, that they are deserving, gifted and of great value, and to say that to themselves as their powerful and affirming mantra.
I dared them to realize that life is full of unexpected challenges (I mentioned this as a very young child in the audience began to express herself in a very assertive way!) and one of the greatest gifts we can all give to ourselves is the gift of humor, which allows us to be flexible and fluid as we navigate down the river of life.
I dared them to remind that person in the mirror of their greatness, their importance, their value and their purpose, time and time and time again.
Yes, I simply dared them to be great.
Them, their parents, their friends, the teachers, and everyone else who was there on Thursday…I dared them all.
But the greatest dare I addressed was the dare to myself…to live what I said; to practice what I preached; to be the model of the dare.
What about you…have you dared yourself lately?
I dare you…
PS I hope to have a video of the whole presentation soon…I think it’ll worth watching…stay tuned!
Marry YourSelf First!
Feel free to leave a comment or two…
Ken Donaldson Introduces W. Clement Stone: BE GENEROUS!
Be generous! Give to those whom you love; give to those who love you; give to the fortunate; give to the unfortunate; yes—give especially to those to whom you don’t want to give.
Your most precious, valued possessions and your greatest powers are invisible and intangible. No one can take them. You, and you alone, can give them. You will receive abundance for your giving. The more you give—the more you will have!
Give a smile to everyone you meet (smile with your eyes)—and you’ll smile and receive smiles.
Give a kind word (with a kindly thought behind the word)—you will be kind and receive kind words.
Give honor, credit and applause (the victor’s wreath)—you will be honorable and receive credit and applause.
Give time for a worthy cause (with eagerness)—you will be worthy and richly rewarded.
Give hope (the magic ingredient for success)—you will have hope and be made hopeful.
Give happiness (a most treasured state of mind)—you will be happy and be made happy.
Give encouragement (the incentive to action)—you will have courage and be encouraged.
Give cheer (the verbal sunshine)—you’ll be cheerful and cheered.
Give a pleasant response (the neutralizer of irritants)—you will be pleasant and receive pleasant responses.
Give good thoughts (nature’s character builder)—you will be good and the world will have good thoughts for you.
Give prayers (the instrument of miracles) for the godless and the godly—you will be reverent and receive blessings, more than you deserve!
Be generous! Give!
~W. Clement Stone
Marry YourSelf First Every Day in Every Way!
Ken Donaldson: Do You Have A Power Mantra?
Do you have a Power Mantra?
Better yet, as you may be asking,
what IS a Power Mantra?
Think: An affirmation on steroids!
Several of you who’ve attended my
workshops asked about mine,
so here it is in its entirety:
Every moment of every day,
I get better and better in every way…
A better body, a better mind;
a better Spirit in all that I find…
Better friends and better work,
and at core:
I find better self-worth!
Every moment of every day,
I get richer and richer in every way…
A richer body, a richer mind;
a richer Spirit in all I do find…
Richness in my friends and richness at work,
and again at the core:
I find the richest self-worth!
Every moment of every day,
I get stronger and stronger in every way…
A stronger body, a stronger mind,
a stronger Spirit in all that I find…
The strongest friends and strength at my work,
and deep in my core:
I find my strongest self-worth!
Every moment of every day,
I get wiser and wiser in every way…
A wiser body, a wiser mind;
a wiser Spirit in all I do find…
Wiser friends and wisdom at my work,
and deep down in my core:
I find the wisest self-worth!
Now, go create one for yourself!!
And Marry YourSelf First Every Day!
And leave a comment below…
Marry YourSelf First: What’s Your P.L.A.N.?
Marry YourSelf First: What’s Your P.L.A.N.?
Very interesting and synchronistic things happen when I prepare for
a presentation.
Sometimes, without even trying or expecting, I discover something
very cool.
Creative energy at its finest moment.
Poof! And a new idea, concept, thought, tool, resource comes out
of nowhere.
Or maybe it was always there just waiting to come to the surface.
Regardless of how it happens, it’s quite cool and I highly
recommend it…meaning, I highly recommend you get into your
creative energy and manifest some new, cool “stuff”!
Here’s what I discovered as I was preparing last week for the
Marry YourSelf First!® Fun-Shop: P.L.A.N.
Yes, it’s an acronym…another acronym.
I like acronyms because they make it easier for me to remember
things…and probably work the same way for you too…hopefully.
P.L.A.N.:
Prepare
Launch
Acknowledge and Affirm
NOW!
That’s it! And allow me to elaborate a bit…
First, it’s always good to have a plan. As the old cliché goes:
People don’t plan to fail, they just fail to plan.
And I have been very BAD about planning at times in my life.
In fact, I hired a new business coach a couple months ago because
my lack of planning was creating a lack of productivity.
Yes…I was spinning out of control!
Enter Robin Lavitch – http://www.planitlifecoaching.com –
my new life and business coach, and with her help I immediately
I saw the issue – the absence of plans and systems-
and immediately she began to help me remedy things.
Results: More focus, more structure, less stress, more happiness
and…MUCH better bottomline!
But let’s get back to PLAN…
First the P…
Prepare: Preparation starts with knowing where you’re going.
In other words, it means having a target to aim for or at.
This is called having a Vision.
So: Do you have a Vision created for your life?
Do YOU know where you’re going?
Or as Lewis Carroll (Alice in Wonderland) said,
“If you don’t know where you are going, any road
will get you there…”
Yikes, any road will get you to nowhere!
Prepare…create your Vision.
Know exactly what your Vision is (use a Vision Map) and
constantly be reminded of that.
Surround yourself with visual reminders of where you’re going!
Impress and embed it into and onto
your subconscious mind.
See it every day.
Next…
The L…
Launch: Get into Action…Right Action.
Let me explain…
In the course of a day, there are many, many people, events,
circumstances and unplanned entities which will try to
take your time, energy and focus.
You can “be in action” addressing many, many tasks, but are
they the “right” tasks?
Are your actions in alignment with your Vision?
If so, then great…alignment means you have integrity with yourself.
However, if your actions are NOT in alignment with your Vision,
then guess what?
You’re not only out of integrity with yourself, you’re likely
WAY off the path of where you’ve been intending to go.
SO…it’s imperative that your Actions be Right Actions,
meaning that they are in alignment with your Vision…
or else you’ll never get there!
Here’s where simple good old-fashioned planning comes in.
Write your necessary actions. I recommend (actually,
Robin recommended this and I’m now doing it…
so basically I’ve paid Robin to pass this info on to you…
yes, you’re getting FREE coaching!) you write out
your goals for the next 2-5 years.
Then break those goals down to what you need to
accomplish this next month.
Then break those down to what you’ll focus on this week.
Next, write these goals into your daily schedule…
and this is where many people (including me!!) get tripped up…
they don’t get into their everyday scheduling and therefore,
these other “urgencies” take over and steal productive time!
Yes: Launch into Right Action. Next…
The A…
Acknowledge and Affirm: a.k.a. Celebrate your accomplishments!
We respond very well to positive strokes, or what we in the
world of “psychobabble” like to call Positive Reinforcement.
It’s been proven hundreds of times in research that you are
much more likely to repeat a behavior or set of behaviors
when you create a positive reinforcement afterwards.
SO…it’s time to have a little (or big!!) party when you
accomplish your tasks and goals.
Yes, reinforce your efforts and
you’re more likely to repeat your efforts.
That’s one way you re-train your brain.
And lastly…
The N…
NOW!
Yes, you MUST start now.
Too much has already been said about procrastination.
The sad reality is that we now live in a “Procrastination Nation.”
You CANNOT look around and base your choices and decisions on
what the masses are doing because the masses aren’t doing much.
Actually, they are doing a lot…of complaining, blaming, gossiping,
running around scared, etc….and not too much in the productive realm!
I know that sounds harsh, critical and judgmental, and
I’ll own every ounce of it, and it’s true… in my humble
(and accurate!) opinion.
Surround yourself with winners…
people who are marching to the beat of their own drum.
People who’ll support your BIG goals and plans. People who
will love you through all the mistakes and “failures” and
kick you in the butt should you start to slip in procrastination gear.
Yes, start today doing something in alignment with your PLAN.
Otherwise, you’re failing without a plan.
That’s for sure…and you deserve to be winning with your PLAN!
After all, you ARE a Winner!
Win with a P.L.A.N.!
Peace and Prosperity…







