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		<title>9 Cat Lessons on Boundaries, Relaxation, Persistence and Life&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 07 Nov 2009 15:57:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;d like to introduce you to a friend of mine: Jzumbula Kittae la Kunta. I call her &#8220;Kunta&#8221; and she&#8217;s a cat. Cats are interesting creatures and Kunta has taught me a number of lessons I wanted to pass on to you. Nine of them, in fact&#8230;fitting since cats allegedly have 9 lives. I think [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;d like to introduce you to a friend of mine: Jzumbula Kittae la Kunta.</p>
<p>I call her &#8220;Kunta&#8221; and she&#8217;s a cat.</p>
<p>Cats are interesting creatures and Kunta has taught me a number of lessons I wanted to pass on to you.</p>
<p>Nine of them, in fact&#8230;fitting since cats allegedly have 9 lives.</p>
<p>I think Kunta had closer to 49 lives.</p>
<p><strong>Lesson #1: Ask for what you want.</strong></p>
<p>Kunta showed up outside my front window about 15 years ago. She looked in and meowed several times. I believe that was her way of telling me she wanted something: Food.</p>
<p>I gave her some food and, as they say, the rest was history.</p>
<p><strong>Lesson #2: Don&#8217;t do what you don&#8217;t want to do.</strong></p>
<p>After she showed up, announced her presence and made her request, I figured this cute little cat would let me pet her.</p>
<p>&#8220;Not!&#8221;</p>
<p>No, she wouldn&#8217;t let me get close enough to touch her for almost a month. And then she wouldn&#8217;t come inside the house for at least another month.</p>
<p><strong>Good boundaries!</strong></p>
<p><strong>Lesson #3: Have pride.</strong></p>
<p>In her earlier years, Kunta was quite the huntress. I won&#8217;t list all the different &#8220;critters&#8221; that were sacrificed, but I will tell you that Kunta often left their remains outside the front door.</p>
<p>Yes, it&#8217;s good to show off your talents, even though the rest of the world may not fully understand nor accept them.</p>
<p><strong>Lesson #4: Relax.</strong></p>
<p>Kunta spent most of the hours of her life doing what I think she liked best: Sleeping.</p>
<p>She&#8217;d usually find a nice shady spot in the bushes or under a neighbor&#8217;s car&#8230;and she&#8217;d spend hours curled up or sprawled out, enjoying the fine art of doing absolutely nothing.</p>
<p>Sometimes it&#8217;s good to do nothing.</p>
<p><strong>Lesson #5: Go at your own pace.</strong></p>
<p>Up until about 5 years ago, Kunta was never a &#8220;lap cat.&#8221; She then decided that she wanted to spend some time on my lap. However the amount of time and frequency was based on only one thing: Her.</p>
<p>She definitely marched to the beat of her own drum and made her own decisions.</p>
<p>Yes, it&#8217;s best to go at your own pace, not the pace of others.</p>
<p><strong>Lesson #6: Persistence.</strong></p>
<p>Kunta never weighed more than 8 pounds&#8230;&#8221;Skinny Kitty&#8221; is what I called her sometimes.</p>
<p>In spite of her petite size, she knew when she wanted to eat and let me know in no uncertain terms.</p>
<p>She had a meow that was closer to a bark and she would sit right outside my window &#8220;talking&#8221; until I let her in to get food. If I ignored her too long, she would start pulling on the screen.</p>
<p>She never went away without getting what she wanted.</p>
<p>A good reminder for all of us: Never quit.</p>
<p><strong>Lesson #7: Be picky.</strong></p>
<p>In the summertime, which is about 80% of the time here in Florida, Kunta always wanted to stay outside. But as soon as it got a bit chilly, she was outside the window, making her requests be known, regardless of what time it was.</p>
<p>Of course, she then also wanted to snuggle in my bed to stay warm&#8230;followed by early morning wake-ups to go back out again.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s good to pick and choose exactly what you want, when you want it.</p>
<p><strong>Lesson #8: Be tough.</strong></p>
<p>At 8 pounds and very skinny, you might think she was easy prey for the other cats in the &#8216;hood&#8230;nope, not even close!</p>
<p>She would climb a tree next to the house and sit on the roof as a way to have the advantage should some other cat want to mess with her.</p>
<p>Pretty smart, I&#8217;d say.</p>
<p>Of course, she never backed down either. I saw her run cats twice the size of her out of the yard. I believe she was fearless.</p>
<p>Courage will take you a long way in life.</p>
<p><strong>Lesson #9: Play.</strong></p>
<p>Kunta never played much. Catnip never did anything for her. Toys seemed to bore her. And the old piece of string got some interest, but I think she knew they were all fake.  She like to play with the real thing: Chasing squirrels and birds and snakes.</p>
<p>Every once in a while she&#8217;d go running through the house from one side to the other,</p>
<p>&#8230;but only when she was in the mood.</p>
<p>Playing occasionally and in your own unique way is good for the soul.</p>
<p>I could go on and on about other lessons and stories, but I think you get the picture: Even cats can be powerful teachers if we are simply open to the lessons.</p>
<p>Kunta decided a couple weeks ago that it was time to become a butterfly, so she made her great transition.</p>
<p>And now I&#8217;m learning a whole new set of lessons that I&#8217;ll be passing on to you&#8230;I hope you enjoy them!</p>
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