Ken Donaldson: Are You Working Too Much?
A while back, Tim Ferriss, author of The Four Hour Work Week (great book, by the way!), posted “The Top 10 Stats To Know: You Are Not Alone” on his blog.
I thought I’d share it with you, along with a few of my personal insights and comments.
1. 63% of all employees want to work less, up from 46% in 1992.
This does NOT mean that we’re getting lazier…at least not necessarily. It means that we need more time off…keep reading.
2. 26% of adult Americans report being on the verge of a serious nervous breakdown.
Are you kidding? No wonder Xanax sales are so high. Anyone think that maybe, just maybe, some good old-fashioned (or even new high tech) stress management might be beneficial?
3. 40% of workers describe their office environment as “most like a real-life survivor program.”
Great…people now get to be traumatized at work. Since this is the place we spend the most time at away from home, doesn’t it make sense that it should be a “user friendly” place?
4. Only 14% of Americans take two weeks or more at a time for vacation. The average American therefore spends more time in the bathroom than on vacation.
Great comparison, but it means we’re all becoming boring. Wikipedia reminds you, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy is a proverb. It means that without time off from work, a person becomes both bored and boring.” Yes, that would be us, here in the U.S.
5. 61% of Americans check email while on vacation.
Not a cardinal sin, but what would happen if we took a total break…totally vacated?
6. 53% of employees would opt for a personal assistant rather than personal trainer.
Amazing…our workloads are becoming so unmanageable that we would put that in front of our health. Yes, we are “heart attacks waiting to happen” as the saying goes.
7. 62% of workers routinely end the day with work-related neck pain, 44% report strained eyes, 38% complain of hand pain, and 34% report difficulty in sleeping due to work-related stress.
The body will speak to us in no uncertain terms. If something is wrong, bad or significantly out of balance, our body lets us know. The sad part is that most people don’t listen.
8. 88% of employees say they have a hard time juggling work and life.
Yes, this would almost be a “duh” comment, but when you combine it with all the other stats, it’s very unsettling.
9. 70% of working fathers and working mothers report they don’t have enough time for their children.
Not only does that disrupt the family system and quite possibly activate some “acting out” by the children, but it also creates a role model that will be created over and over in future generations until someone gets smart and insightful and changes their values and priorities.
10. In 2005, a psychiatrist at King’s College in London administered IQ tests to three groups: the first did nothing but perform the IQ test, the second was distracted by e-mail and ringing phones, and the third was stoned on marijuana. Not surprisingly, the first group did better than the other two by an average of 10 points. The e-mailers, on the other hand, did worse than the stoners by an average of 6 points.
Besides the giggle and smirk you get from reading this, understand too just how energy draining it is to be in that environment all day. Most people have no idea it is really affecting them.
Do you?
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It’s Official: Tampa Bay is a Stress Mess!
The editorial team from Forbes.com, the online version of the Forbes magazine, is well known for their Top Ten lists. They recently released their Top Ten Most Stressed-Out Cities with Las Vegas being number one, followed by Los Angeles and Houston.
And what major metropolitan area is number 4? Tampa Bay! Check it out here.
Their criteria to determine these “most stressed-out cities” includes the following: High unemployment, long commute times, long work hours, limited access to health care, poor physical health and a lack of exercise.
Overall, here are the individual categories of stressors and their corresponding rankings for Tampa:
High Unemployment Rank: #5 in the U.S.
Long Commute Times Rank: #17 in the U.S.
Long Working Hours Rank: #10 in the U.S.
Limited Health Care Rank: #13 in the U.S.
Poor Physical Health Rank: #4 in the U.S.
Limited Exercise Rank: #9 in the U.S.
So, does that mean you should move? NO!
Now hear this: “Leaving the situation usually isn’t the best way to create a solution. Part of the problem is denial, which simply means that ‘you don’t know what you don’t know’.”
The path to breaking through denial is first having an awareness of these issues. If you’re not aware, you won’t change anything. Furthermore, to create less stress (and, therefore, more success), the following is also suggested:
- Most stress is lifestyle created. Regardless of how much we hear, read and see about diet and exercise, most people are still not placing a high enough value on their health.
- Setting boundaries with yourself, creating goals and having an accountability partner are all necessary components to creating a more stress free life.
- Having a good sense of humor, getting outside and connecting with nature on a regular basis, moving your body and developing a positive social network are other valuable components to decreasing stress.
- When we’re reminded, we are more likely to take action. Use your day-timer, your calendar or computer software to schedule in stress reducing activities.
Click here to receive your complimentary “create less stress and more success” portable workshop. This 60 minute audio is yours free just by signing up for it.
Additionally, if you can’t get the work life balance you desire, consider hiring a professional coach or therapist. It’s great investment for your health, wealth and happiness!
What do YOU think? Leave a comment below.
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Ken Donaldson asks: Are You Anti-Cancer?
Read this first:
“Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air. You name them – work, family, health, friends, and spirit – and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same…
You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.”
~ Brian Dyson, CEO of Coca Cola Enterprises from 1959-1994
And now, hold on to your hat, as I’m about to tell you something you DON’T want to hear:
According to the American Cancer Society (ACS), an estimated 192,370 new cases of invasive breast cancer are expected to be diagnosed among women in the United States this year. An estimated 40,170 women are expected to die from the disease in 2009 alone. Today, there are about 2.5 million breast cancer survivors living in the United States. (And the rate is going WAY up for men too!)
What’s the connection? I’m not sure…maybe none…but I doubt it.
Since October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I wanted to offer my thoughts.
I am NOT a doctor, a researcher or an expert in cancer, but after thousands of clients over 25+ years, I do have some thoughts, observations and opinions.
Don’t feel that you must agree…remember, most of this is my opinion…
Here we go…
Since the breast cancer (and ALL cancers) rate continues to be at a very high (and totally unacceptable … man on the moon but can’t cure cancer!!??) rate, there must be something(s) that we’re doing to invite it.
Maybe it’s partly our diet…we all know how that has become very poor over the years.
Maybe it’s partly all the chemical additives added to our foods…and our water…and in the air we breathe.
Maybe it’s partly the hormones and antibiotics fed to the animals that we then ingest.
Maybe it’s partly the extreme amount of electro-magnetic and radiation pollution that we can’t see and that everyone seems to deny and downplay.
Or maybe it’s partly the stress that we continually add without having the resources to deal with the stress we already had and weren’t dealing with in a healthy fashion.
I don’t know, and like I said, I’m no cancer expert nor am I an expert in any of these other areas…except the last one.
I can talk to you about stress…I can talk a lot about this.
In fact, this is MY area of expertise…
You’ve no doubt heard about the personality types.
Like type A, who are often described as “stress junkies.”
Then there are the type B individuals who, in contrast, are described as patient, relaxed, and easy-going, generally lacking any sense of urgency.
And psychologists have now identified a “type C” (cancer-prone) personality. These people are characterized as people “who respond to stress with depression and a sense of hoplessness.”
Yikes…”depression and hopelessness”!!!
Here’s more: Type C personalities tend to be introverted, eager to please, conforming and compliant.
In other words, they are people pleasers who usually don’t express how they really feel.
Then, that lack of expression leads to depression and hopelessness…yeah, that sounds like just the formula to make people sick!
Holy Suppression, Batman!
Okay, so here’s the deal: If you haven’t been expressing yourself completely and thoroughly, NOW is THE time to start!
First, it’ll make your relationships, your work and – YES!! – your health better.
But more so, isn’t it just the right thing to do!!??
Can’t see yourself doing this (this is where it starts…between your ears!)!!??
So, take the Communication Readiness Quiz™…Here you go…check those that apply to you:
1.) I avoid talking about things I know I should because I am afraid I will hurt someone’s feelings. ____
2.) I am uncomfortable with receiving attention and/or affection. ____
3.) I deflect praise and compliments by downplaying them. ____
4.) I “bite my tongue” again and again rather than speak my mind, until I finally blow up at someone.____
5.) I avoid necessary confrontations.____
6.) I have trouble setting and honoring boundaries in relationships.____
7.) I find it hard to express how I really feel.____
8.) I have a hard time receiving “constructive criticism”. ____
9.) I feel like people don’t listen to me.____
10.) I have trouble asking for what I want.____
Total Communication Readiness Score____
0-1: You are a great communicator…be a role model for others!
2-3: You are a good overall communicator…keep it going!
4-5: You have some good communication skills, but could use improvement in a few areas…don’t wait!
6-7: You have some rough spots in your communication strategies…start now to avoid future problems!
8 or more: You are VERY ready to improve your communication skills…call me today!
Call me…(727) 394-7325…I can help you.
And Marry YourSelf First! will help…for example Chapter 7: Communication Poker: Knowing When to Hold `em, Show `em and Fold `em is all about effective communication.
Get your copy today!
http://kendonaldson.com/store/
In the meantime, how about upgrading your health and making yourself an “anti C type” and “Just Say It!”
As Brian was quoted in the beginning of this article, “…But the other four balls – family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same…”
Be good to you…start today in every way!
Stress and STD
I want to talk with you about a very sensitive matter: STD.
Yes, I know just looking at it…
STD
and seeing it and thinking
about it causes some uncomfortable feelings.
And you know that NOT talking about something doesn’t make it go away….in fact, it makes it worse.
Yes, denial makes things that are already bad, even worse.
There’s a new STD that you need to know about.
Why? Because if you’re not informed and prepared, well, you’ll be left unprotected and the consequences can and will be severe.
Deadly, in fact.
Okay, so what is this new STD?
Stress Transmutation Device.
Not quite what you were expecting, was it?!!
I wanted to get your attention….hopefully it worked.
Why? Because stress kills and destroys life, just like a STD (the other ones!).
Depending on whose research you read,
between 70 and 90% of ALL illnesses are stress related.
According to the Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory, here are the Top Ten Stressful Life Events:
1. Spouse’s death
2. Divorce
3. Marriage separation
4. Jail term
5. Death of a close relative
6. Injury or illness
7. Marriage
8. Fired from job
9. Marriage reconciliation
10. Retirement
Probably no big surprises there, however it’s interesting that there a couple of positive events that are still considered highly stressful.
Yes…even positive events can be perceived as stressful.
The bottom-line is that stress can destroy your health, well-being and relationships…I see it all the time in my practice.
Time for you to learn how to “Transmutate” your stress!
So where can you buy a Stress Transmutation Device?
You can’t…sorry!
Nope, can’t buy one anywhere.
But here’s the good news: You don’t need to buy one…you already have one.
But before I tell you more about that,
let’s look at the true source of stress.
All stress comes from one place and it has nothing, or at least, very little, to do with any external events or circumstances.
It all starts between your ears.
Yes, your mind, as wonderful as it is, misfires at times.
It malfunctions.
It has dysfunctions and distortions.
It over-reacts.
The good news is that most of the time (99.99%) it works fine…really good…almost perfect.
However, the mind seems to have the most difficulty functioning optimally with stress, or I should say, with the perception of stress.
The mind sometimes perceives things, usually due to past conditioning, as if they are threats…
like a pack of hungry wolves running straight towards you.
No…that was NOT a pack of hungry wolves, and your life is NOT in danger.
But your mind may have been reacting as if it was.
That’s where the Stress Transmutation Device comes in.
It is also between your ears.
Yep…you already have a Stress Transmutation Device between your ears, just waiting for you to use it.
Here’s the deal: Stress is 100% perception…
if you perceive it as threatening, then it will be.
However, if you perceive it as benign and non-threatening, then it is.
The key is to catch it…sometimes easier said than done, I know.
Especially since 95% or more of that organ (your mind) between your ears is subconscious.
But here’s a clue…actually two clues, to more effectively impact your subconscious deeper mind:
First, always focus on what you DO want…
NOT on what you don’t want.
Many, many people put most of their focus on what they don’t want or what they are fearful of, and they cause a tremendous amount of unnecessary stress for themselves. Plus, that’s what your subconscious will then focus on.
Second, remember that the subconscious mind loves imagery…
feed yourself as many vivid, sensory based (use ALL the senses) images as possible…all the positive ones, of course!
If you’re still having challenges, then perhaps it’s time for a tune-up.
So here’s the deal, I want you to have Less Stress and More Success in your life…that’s the bottom-line.
Therefore I’m offering you a special single Stress-Busting session to get your Stress Transmutation Device tuned in and working with you and for you.
For a limited time, and only for those of you on my mailing list, I’m offering a 60 minute Stress-Busting session normally priced at $147 for only $97.
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In fact, I’ll even allow you to invest in a few sessions if you’d like to give them as gifts to your friends, loved ones and/or co-workers.
These sessions can be in person at my office or over the phone.
So go ahead and click here and get started.
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Get the proper STD protection!
And pass this on to your friends and loved ones who may not be properly protected!
Peace and Prosperity…
Ken
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