Sad, mad, scared, ashamed…who wants to be the first to talk about these feelings?

No hands went up and there were no volunteers…how come?

Is it because the idea of you actually controlling emotions seems too challenging?

Or perhaps you were brought up in an “emotionally detached” environment and emotional expression just feels too weird or uncomfortable.

But when the question is asked “how to control your emotions” every few people seem to have answers.

In fact, most people run when they hear questions about emotions or the mere conversation about emotions.

That is, of course, unless these same people are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, then for some strange reason they often get instantaneously comfortable, confident and courageous about expressing themselves and their emotions.

But that doesn’t really count, does it?

In fact, that may be one BIG reason why there is a huge drug and alcohol problem: People can only deal with their emotions while under the influence.

Sad, isn’t it?!!

Look at the following list of emotions and see what you feel when you read them:

• Joy    
• Sadness
• Trust
• Disgust
• Fear  
• Anger
• Surprise      
• Anticipation

Which feel the most comfortable?

And which feel the least comfortable?

Any idea why?

Most people are more at ease with “joy” or it’s close relative “happiness” than most of the others…why?

Some people aren’t even comfortable with these lighter and happier emotions.

When asking “why” it seems to be so challenging to express emotions, here are some things to consider:

1.) We are not typically taught much of anything about emotions. We have no classes and very little, if any, curriculum in mainstream education about emotions and the expression thereof. Therefore, we are all, by default, rather emotionally dumb.

2.) Many people are brought up in environments which had excessive emotions in one direction or another and because of this, these people often associate emotions as being dangerous, inappropriate or as an “out of control” experience. Therefore, there is conditioned response, much like a reflex, to avoid the emotions.

3.) Much of what is portrayed about emotions through various media outlets (TV, movies, books, etc.) is extremely distorted…Do you really want to have “The Simpsons” as your emotional role model? This adds to both the conditioned emotional avoidance response and low emotional intelligence.

The end result is that most people have very little, if any, solid foundation to explore or express emotions.

You could say that we’ve become rather emotionally ignorant.

So here’s the next question: How can you create better emotional health, more emotional connection and healthy resources to better control your emotions?

Here’s the simple answer: Make all your emotions okay.

Easier said than done, right?

Start by making a new rule: All your emotions are okay…no good ones and no bad ones, they are just all okay.

After all, (now get ready to hear this!!) they are ONLY emotions.

That’s right…ONLY emotions.

They don’t really mean anything.

BUT, people often attach a HUGE meaning to them and that’s what makes them so challenging.

When you get to the place where you can simply observe emotions, whether they are yours or others, you’ll find that without the meaning attached (which is usually a negative distortion), the emotion itself has very little charge to it.

AND ponder this: If you could, by some kind of act of modern science, bring “Younger You” into the present, what would you say to Younger You about all those emotions?

Probably that all emotions are all okay, normal and healthy, and that emotional expression is especially okay…right?!!

Then perhaps you could practice just that: Imagine having one of these imaginary conversations with Younger You…a “corrective conversation” that would give Younger You permission to have and express any and all emotions.

And the value of this? Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference (in most cases) between what’s real and what’s imagined. Therefore when you use your imagination to your benefit (like in this simple practice) you actually leave a new, and positive, impression in the subconscious.

It’s like planting new seeds in your garden and these are the seeds of how you want things to be.

Take good care of these new seeds (“water the seeds” frequently) by spending a couple minutes each day with these new imagery exercises.

You’ll begin to change your reactions from the inside-out.

Work with all types of emotions, include them all, and make sure you include the love emotions…many people received many mixed messages here.

Improve your emotional intelligence and you’ll find all areas of your life improving.

And Marry YourSelf First!

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Rapid Resolution Therapy™ is fast, lasting and painless!

Yes, Rapid Resolution Therapy™ is a unique and innovative method to help you painlessly complete the therapeutic process. No longer are you required to relive the past or feel the pain from traumatic events. Imagine having unwanted thoughts and behaviors eliminated! Unconscious conflicts blocking desired change are resolved. Self destructive behavior disappears. The mind is clear. There is emotional freedom.

IS THAT GREAT OR IS THAT GREAT??!!

Clients gain benefits that reach well beyond their goals for seeking treatment. They report an immediate and lasting increase in energy, clarity and well-being. The mind is cleared, organized and optimized. Because the root cause of problems is cleared, these positive changes are automatic and lasting.

Clients realize fully and through every facet of their minds that these experiences are finished and gone. Anxiety and problem anger are replaced with energy and peace. And old self destructive behavioral patterns are dissolved.

Jon Connelly is the founder and developer of Rapid Resolution Therapy™ and I started my training with Jon 12 years ago and continue to use his state-of-the-art Rapid Resolution Therapy™ with all my clients. The results I’ve witnessed are just short of miraculous!See what everyone is saying at Jon’s website at:

http://www.rapidtraumaresolution.org/

Listen and watch Jon Connelly, the founder and developer of Rapid Resolution Therapy™, and some of the people he’s treated with Rapid Resolution Therapy™ :

TRAUMA: GHOSTS FROM THE PAST

What is Trauma? Trauma is not necessarily tragic. It can be any past event, whether simple or difficult, that was upsetting, confusing, weird, painful or distressful. Although that event is done and over, the effects of it continue to have an underlying affect on a person.

A psychological trauma is an emotional wound or shock that creates substantial, lasting damage. People can be affected by troubling experiences from the past, even when these events are not consciously remembered.

Emotional problems and destructive behavioral patterns are impossible to overcome when they are fueled by the ongoing influence of traumatic past events.

Unresolved, these issues also increase vulnerability to medical problems.

Attempting to bring about enduring change without eliminating the ongoing influence of these “ghosts from the past” is like trying to repair the structure of a building by applying a coat of paint.

Rapid Resolution Therapy™ completely eliminates the negative influence from traumatic events even when there is no conscious memory of what took place.

RAPID RESOLUTION THERAPY™ AND UNREALISTIC FEARS

No one can eliminate a fear of flying by studying statistics that prove it is safe. Logic can only influence the conscious mind. The subconscious mind cannot respond to logic or reason.

Think of a person who is smoking, overeating or abusing any substance. This person already knows that the problem behavior is not logical. They know the negative consequences. The subconscious mind continues causing the problem because the subconscious mind isn’t logical.

Rapid Resolution Therapy™ addresses unrealistic fears, generalized anxiety and specific phobias by bringing blocked unconscious conflicts into the light and thereby allowing you to live in the desired change state you ultimately want.This includes (but is NOT limited to):

• Fear of public speaking

• Fear of new places

• Fear of flying

• Fear of heights

• Fear of closed places

• Fear of being alone

• Fear of meeting new people

• Test anxiety

• Performance anxiety

• Shyness

• And even the fear of roller coasters!

My goal is simple: I want to improve the quality of your life as quickly, permanently and painlessly as possible!

Traditional therapists have been taught to convince their clients to “take responsibility” so that they can “work on their problems.” Psychotherapy used to be focused on the patient’s past.

Traditional psychotherapy took a long time, encouraged dependency, and required a painful re-living of past experiences and much of the time it didn’t even work!

Today, psychotherapists are being taught cognitive behavioral approaches that ignore the ongoing influence of past events. However, cognitive behavioral – and solution oriented approaches – ignore the ongoing influence of past events on current problems.

Rapid Resolution Therapy™ facilitates effortless change that comes from deep within the mind. We will get right to the subconscious mind and make the necessary adjustments so that the problems disappear. You’ll achieve fast and lasting improvements!

Rapid Resolution Therapy™ will:

• Engage all facets of the mind with profound connection using precise multi-level communication

• Open a channel to the subconscious

• Expose and eliminate unconscious conflicts blocking desired change

• Pinpoint the exact events to clear so that desired change is automatic

• Eliminate the effect of traumatic events even if they are repressed or forgotten

• Stop self-destructive behavioral patterns

• Resolve multiple traumas in a single psychotherapy session

• Transform your attitude, emotions, behavior, beliefs, expectations and perceived identity so your life can once again be joyful and productive!

• Promote healing

Plus, the same techniques used in Rapid Resolution Therapy™ can be used to help you in all areas of performance enhancement. This includes:

• Academics and test-taking

• Sports and athletics

• Singing and dancing

• Acting and speaking

• Dating

• Sex and relationships

• Work and career advancement

• Business networking

Why suffer with worry and anxiety when you can have freedom, peace and confidence!!??

RAPID RESOLUTION THERAPY™ INVOLVES:

• Uncovering techniques

• Multi-level communication

• Fool proof convincers

• Breakthrough memory blocks

• Transformational language

• Communication that bypasses the conscious mind

• Disassembling unnecessary emotion

• Deactivating impulsive behavior

• Failure proof communication

• Mind/body healing

• Subconscious activators & accelerators

• Dynamic imagery

• Dream resolution

• Pain relief

What does NOT happen with Rapid Trauma Resolution™? I will NOT ask you to:

• Move your eyes back and forth

• Travel in your mind to a pretend safe place

• Feel painful emotions to “get them out”

• Tap your body while repeating special words

• Nurture your inner child

• Beat pillows or furniture to get your anger out

• Pretend to confront the abuser

• Actually confront the abuser

• Attend groups to get support

• Go into a trance and listen to positive suggestion

(I’m almost embarrassed to admit that I used to use all these techniques and although they do sometimes work, Rapid Resolution Therapy™ is much more effective, efficient and painless!)

Rapid Resolution Therapy™ provides solutions for life’s toughest problems…

People who have experienced:

• Incest
• Rape
• Sexual violence
• Physical or sexual abuse
• Violence
• Domestic Violence
• Family dysfunction
• Verbal abuse
• Terrifying events
• Crime
• Wartime horror
• Injury or illness
• Natural disasters
• Death of a loved one
• Murder/suicide of a loved one
• Loss of relationship
• Bullying
• Humiliation
• Betrayal
• Infidelity
• Abandonment

And for people who continue to suffer with:

• Stress related medical problems
• Panic attacks
• Sexual dysfunction
• Nightmares
• Self injury
• Dissociation
• Flashbacks
• Insomnia
• Eating disorders
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Guilt and Shame
• Self-hatred
• Substance abuse
• Problem anger
• Sex addiction
• Compulsive behavior
• Obsessive thinking
• Phobias
• Addiction – dependency

If you desire change that is automatic and lasting, then you’re an ideal candidate for Rapid Resolution Therapy™. Many people prefer Rapid Resolution Therapy™ over spending months or years in weekly traditional therapy sessions. In many cases Rapid Resolution Therapy™ treatments can be completed in a single office visit. Some treatments may take two or three sessions.

If you are tired of traditional therapies that have not worked or were too painful; this is the answer you’ve been seeking.

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