Ken Donaldson: Dating Red Flags
The Dating Red Flags here we go…
- I love the way they look or their status and it builds my self-esteem to be with them.
- I want to rescue or “help” them because I see their potential.
- We have some things in common and so I’m avoiding looking at glaring differences.
- He/she appears to be totally different than people I’ve been with in the past.
- I’m focusing on one important quality (money, sex, fun, humor, etc) and ignoring unmet requirements.
- What he/she says about him/her doesn’t match reality.
- This isn’t what I really want, but I don’t want to be alone
- I notice myself trying to change this person to fit what I want, instead of accepting them for who they are.
Additionally, he/she:
- Reacts to frustration with anger, rage or blame.
- Blames others or circumstances for their current life situation.
- Is immature, impulsive, and/or irresponsible.
- Tries to control everything, including me.
- Is emotionally distant, void or aloof.
- Is still pining for a past relationship.
- Wants me to make their sad life better.
- Is married or otherwise unavailable to commit to me.
- Is active in some addictive behavior but has rationalized as “not a problem.”
- Lacks integrity in dealing with people, money, etc.
- Is pessimistic and negative about things that matter to me.
- Has a judgmental attitude towards others.
- Is unwilling to self-examine, accept feedback or take responsibility.
- Doesn’t keep agreements.
- Talks too much (especially about self), monopolizes conversation.
- Has highly changeable and inconsistent behavior.
- Is on an emotional roller coaster, or has recurring or regular emotional drama.
- Has the inability to listen.
- Is overly quiet, withdrawn.
There’s a start for you.
And Marry YourSelf First!